0017: What Families of Addicts Need to Know About Guilt and Shame in Addiction Recovery
When you have an experience that is unpleasant, do you find yourself looking for something or someone to blame for it? And, if your focus lands on someone, do you feel compelled to let them know they have caused you pain? Lastly, when you do communicate your feelings, do you use shaming language? If you’re like most humans, your answers to these questions might stir some emotions. Even a “yes” might be met with thoughts of how your actions are justified. Blaming and shaming is a game that no one wins. There is another way.
In this episode, you will:
- Learn how people experience shame
- Differentiate between guilt and shame
- Gain insight into the emotions recovery stakeholders will experience
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- [01:56] -This article that I’m going to talk about is from a website called Crosswalk. The title is, “Should you feel shame for missing church?”
- [04:37] -Aware Appreciation.
- [06:52] -When you have an experience that is unpleasant, do you find yourself looking for something or someone to blame for it? And, if your focus lands on someone, do you feel compelled to let them know they have caused you pain?
- [07:30] -As we explore this Blame Shame Game, it’s important to acknowledge that Recovery Stakeholders dealing with an addict are regularly put under an enormous amount of pressure.
- [14:02] -You may be wondering at this point why we would choose to communicate like this when it is so destructive. When we’re dealing with an addict, and shaming them, it’s literally like we’re pouring gasoline on the fire that is addiction.
- [15:46] -Unless you’re living under a rock, you are going to interact with other humans. And, that will naturally lead to conflict at times. There’s no better teacher than experience.
- [16:39] -My children are adopted. We could not have children and to say we were thrilled when these twin boys came into our lives is an understatement. We couldn't wait to be parents.
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